Guilty!! How do I break free from the blips of irresponsible actions?

We are all human: WCTG resources can help

Is insufficient clarity on your core values (center, priorities, or key roles) holding you back from completing the puzzle of your life purpose? Are you, like me guilty of “blips of irresponsible action?”

Note that I’m  updating this post because I recently caught myself red-handed – twice in one day – eating cookies when I had promised (to GOD for lent) that I wouldn’t eat any cookies for 40 days! I was so good before and after! Why did I slip up?? Just like I said below….my focus last Sunday (immediately after the women’s 10K) was on my stomach!!! ERRRR! What kind of Nutritionist am i, when I can’t even stick to my self-imposed lenten sacrifice one week?  A sinner! A hypocrite…maybe, just maybe, an imperfect human.

Once I lose sight of my values, what’s most important to me, I can destabilize. I detach from the firm foundation of my mission and purpose, and falter. I usually take several steps back in my progress of accomplishing my goals, often wasting time and money during the process, which can create more stress.  It becomes a frustrating cycle of human weakness.

How do I break free from the blips of irresponsible actions?

I reassess what’s most important to me. I rethink my values, priorities and goals.  I re-write and post to renew my commitment to who I am, and how I want to show up in the world.  I  blip every couple of years, frequently because of insufficient relaxation, and have refined the process of how to get back on track faster with Activity 11.2, in The Wellness Compass Travel Guide.

Activity 11.2 helps you clarify (again in my case) what’s most important to you right now, and what you expect to be most important in 10 years. No matter how you use it it’s a quick way to illuminate priorities that can either jumpstart a new you, or be used as a key component of a strategic assessment to refine who you are and where you’re going. If you like this activity, The Wellness Compass Travel Guide provides a wealth of other self-assessment activities designed to facilitate a journey of abundance leading to being the best you can be. They include, but are not limited to:

  • Feel free to share comments on your experience of completing Activity 11.2 or other activities that help you clarify your values, strengths, challenges and/or provoke personal growth.

Part of my self-induced punishment for my crime is publicly admitting to it: I’ve used all the WCTG tools- so at this point I am strong enough not to give in or give up!  P.S. I did ask for forgiveness: And, the cookies i made !&#*(X are still on the counter tempting me! I can do it!!!

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6 thoughts on “Guilty!! How do I break free from the blips of irresponsible actions?

  1. Knowing oneself, and above all, being kind to oneself, is a big step in the right direction. We are humans, and therefore, regularly make mistakes. The important thing isn’t to dwell on the mistake, it is to learn from it and continue on the journey. Mistakes help us show compassion to others and remind us of our common fallibility.

  2. I really appreciate the exercises and steps to organize one’s values, priorities and goals. I believe these self awareness exercises are truly the beginning of the necessary steps towards the wellness journey. I have so many competing priorities and goals (now with four adult children(their spouses) and my grandchildren and responsibilities as an employee and as care provider for aging parent) that it has been a challenge for me to just commit to a few priorities that address my personal wellness journey. I feel like I tend to do everything marginally well vs a few things exceptionally well. I would like to focus more on me and less on everyone else, but where to begin ! I have spent the past 35 years as a proficient juggler for everyone else … I learned to simplify my life somewhat and not volunteer on so many familiy related committees or in church groups, yet I still need to apply the values, priorities and goals exercises to re-focus my life for my personal wellness journey.

    • Thanks for sharing. I too struggle with trying to do too much, and find the simplification and doing a few things really well is key. To me it still starts with clarifying my goals and values (Activities 3, 11.2, 14.1 and of course the Wellness Compass Profile to get a big picture assessment). I also think it requires us to confidently and effectively set boundaries (Chapter 5, self love) and enhance our comfort in consistently saying ‘No, thank you” to so many of requests we get for our time, money and energy. To to be able to do this, I have found I must truly BELIEVE that my values, priorities and goals are right for me (and my family and my spiritual believe) and NOT listen to all the snide criticism from others (who think I should be aiding their request), and consistently focus on what I believe is my calling and just do it the best I can!

  3. Iʻve found that reviewing and setting up my To-Dolist at the end of each work day helps me to hit the ground running the next day. And, it also helps me think about what I need to do that evening at home.

    • To-do-lists still work! My problem is that i get overwhelmed with everything I have to do when I put it in one master list. How do you handle this?

      I have to prioritize my to do list by role and time (day) and check off my list as I go. I also do better with a weekly list, rather than making up a new one daily. Do you make your list daily? Where do you keep it?