To be strong enough to consistently care about others, you must first truly love and care for yourself; otherwise, you can easily get into excessive negative self-sacrifice that fuels resentment that undermines unconditional caring. Loving yourself includes, but is not limited to
knowing who you are: your moral compass, strengths, and challenges;
- acknowledging that you are not perfect and allowing yourself to fail, learn, and grow;
- being kind to yourself: caring for your body, mind, and spirit;
- stopping all negative talk, replacing it with meditation and positive talk;
- constantly forgiving yourself; and
- being true to yourself: establishing your limits and your boundaries, and sticking to them.
Boundaries are unofficial rules about what should not be done; and limits that define acceptable behavior. Establishing limits and enforcing them is one of the most difficult aspects of loving yourself. Creating boundaries involves at least six steps:
Decide (write out) the consequences ahead of time.
Let your behavior, not your words speak for you.
Say what you mean and mean what you say (integrity). 
More to Ponder
- Which of these steps do you need to work on?
- Is there anything you would personally add to this list?
 K. Obrien, “6 Steps to Set Good Boundaries,” Mindbodygreen, 2014, retrieved on June 10, 2016, from http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-13176/6-steps-to-set-good-boundaries.htm